Why I Am Breaking My Silence

Many have asked why I’ve decided to come forward with my story of being married to convicted serial killer, Shawn Grate.  I want others to know they are not alone.  If my story can save one life, or bring hope to others in similar situations, then all the pain will be worth it.  A healthy amount of time has passed for my daughter and I to walk through this painful process.  Through God’s miraculous healing, I am now confident to share this story publicly.

There is no way to process the extremely close proximity to evil I experienced without seeing God’s protection.  There is no way to dry my child’s tears over her absent, evil father without God’s strength.  There is no way to understand the undeniable shielding my daughter and I have experienced without God’s mighty work.

This is not a Shawn Grate story.  This is a God story.

My ultimate prayer is that God will use the ashes of this tragedy to bring many to desperately-needed healing.  I can share openly about my brush with evil to help many woman who suffer in silence at the hand of an abuser.  I pray that God uses me to show abused women and children they are not alone, and help can be found.

Amber Bowman





9 thoughts on “Why I Am Breaking My Silence

  1. You go girl! What a story of grace, mercy, and strength! God’s miraculous protection and turning your ashes into beauty. ThAnk you for being a willing vessel to share and offer hope and healing to others. May God be glorified!!! Shine your light bright!!!!

  2. Proud of you, Amber, for allowing God to use you as you have allowed Him. You are a strong woman of faith!! Love you!

  3. Thank you for sharing your story. It is and will continue to touch more lives than you may ever know! Prayers for your future! God is using you in a mighty way! You are beautiful, Amber!

  4. Amber – thank you so much for sharing your story. Thankfully, many of us will never understand the evil you have experienced in your life. It takes such courage and bravery to stand up to this evil, and you have truly shown your strength. I hope you continue to find your peace in inspiring and helping other women, as your story of strength and courage certainly inspires me.

  5. It takes a lot of strength to speak out like you did! I’m looking forward to seeing God work through you and your ministry! I’ve been praying for you!

  6. Amber, you are a shining light for God and His sovereignty over our lives. He is in control and kept you and your daughter safe when you were in the presence of pure evil. God spared you from the horror his victims endured, and I am so thankful for that. God can bring beauty from your ashes as you seek to help others in similar situations. I am excited to see what God has in store for you as you seek Him! 💜

  7. You Amber, gave many women hope by speaking on national tv . No doubt in my mind.
    Every women , especially teenage girls, need be warned of the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
    Prayers for you and your family.

  8. Really proud of you Amber and I know God is too. God bless your ministry and little Violet. Love you

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